“Perhaps the truth depends on a walk around the lake.” ~ Wallace StevensFirst reading? I thought "huh?" But then I realized what it meant.
Have you ever had an argument where both parties are so passionately arguing and neither one can really hear and understand what the other person is saying? The words, phrases, and inflection gets in the way and we latch onto that, fighting back and acting defensively. We let past hurts affect today's argument, and read more into what we are hearing. Nothing is accomplished. Nothing is resolved. The only result is pain, anger, and exasperation.
But imagine if you took a walk to cool off. Around a lake would be wonderful, but around the neighborhood would suffice. Relax. Breathe deep. Lose the tension. Really think about the other person's point of view. Open your mind to other possibilities.
Maybe then the truth will appear.
And the truth isn't necessarily that you are right, or that you are wrong, or even that there IS a right or wrong. Life isn't that simple, and there are more than fifty shades of grey between black and white.
My husband and I both could have used this post a few hours earlier when we were arguing about redoing the basement. We were being so silly. :( Thanks
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