Tuesday, May 31, 2011

16 months old today - What can Sophie do now?

Today, Sophie is sixteen months old. One year and four months ago, she leapt into the world and has been keeping us on our toes ever since. It's so fun watching her grow and learn things!
Here's what she can do now:
  • Feed herself fairly well
  • "Tell" us she's hungry (she'll grab food out of the pantry or refrigerator when we open and shake her high chair tray)
  • She helps with laundry - she loves to put clothes into the dryer and close the door
  • She follows directions (pick up a certain thing, give that to Mommy, throw in the trash, take to your room, take to living room, etc)
  • She gives kisses goodbye and goodnight and says "Ni-ni" at bedtime
  • She holds the door open for the dogs to come inside
  • She "feeds" the dogs and cat by putting their dish in front of them, wherever they are and even if the dish is empty
  • She can also put a scoop of dry food into the cat's bowl
  • She "reads" to herself out loud in baby babble
  • She's learning to jump
  • She knows how to unlatch the dishwasher (thank goodness for childproofing straps!)
  • She eats from her plate and bowl without throwing them to the floor (until she's done, anyway) or putting on her head (usually)
It seems like a few short months ago that she was born! It definitely doesn't feel like it's been over a year already. Her personality is showing more and more every day. She is a bit defiant, and is obsessed with shoes. She likes brushing her teeth and having her nails done, but doesn't like sitting still for hair combing. Baths are amazingly fun, but not face-washing.

I can't wait to see what comes next.






Monday, May 30, 2011

What's a wordle?

Today is Wordle Day in the Blogathon.

What is Wordle? It's a really cool word cloud made up of words used in my posts. I am not technical enough to actually get the picture to show up here, though, (Remember my confessions post?)

It really turned out nice, though, so I saved it to the public gallery and it's viewable here.

Happy Memorial Day!

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Happy long weekend :)

Walking to the park

This is fun!

It's my usual bedtime.

All those lights are boats - the lake was full of them!




Why did it stop? Can we go home to bed now?

Saturday, May 28, 2011

A nice day

Today is a nice day.

We slept in - Sophie woke at 8, had her morning milk, and then slept until 10. The girl KNOWS what to do on weekends!

After she had her breakfast, we went to a family friend's yard sale. The consignment shop we loved closed a couple months ago, so I had a lot of outgrown baby clothes to get rid of. I also have been wanting to sell her swing and baby seat, too, but hadn't gotten around to it. So, we packed them all up in my car and took down with us.

We spent a couple hours in the sun, and best of all we brought Emma home! She'd been at her grandparents' house since Wednesday.

We came home, she spent some quality time with her Daddy, and then they brought home Chinese takeout for dinner. Soon, we are going to Rockin' the Docks, a popular (and free!) local event. Even though we've lived here 12 years, we've only been once before. I'm hoping Sophie isn't afraid of the fireworks!

Friday, May 27, 2011

Confessions

I have a confession to make.
Okay, several.
I've been carrying around some secrets, faking my way through some conversations. But now, I'm exposing myself.

  • I didn't watch Oprah. Last show, first show, any in between. I feel nothing now that her show's gone.
  • I am female and HATE Dirty Dancing.
  • Also no American Idol, Dancing With the Stars, Bachelor/ette, or Biggest Loser
  • I looooove Big Brother, however.
  • Over the years, I've somehow given the impression (???) that I'm tech-savvy. Most of the time, though, I rely on my husband to do computer-technical stuff.
  • When we watch shows through Netflix on the Xbox, Emma operates it. 
  • I have a slight addiction problem - it's The Sims. First the original, then Sims 2, now Sims 3. I've also developed a fondness for Lego Harry Potter - but still need someone to turn the Xbox on for me. And then back off again.
  • I can't stand Dora the Explorer, but I see how Sophie responds to it in the pediatrician's waiting room and turned it on for her yesterday morning to buy myself a little more time for getting ready for work. (In less than 5 minutes she was done, though, and in her room playing. Yes!)
What about you? Any deep, dark secrets you're harboring? Share! Don't leave me all alone here!

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Henry's injustice

I have wanted to write about this subject for a long time, but hesitated. What else could I say when the crime victim's mother already says it so well? But still, the case is on my mind and heart.

A little over a year ago I saw some tweets among some local people about the teenage son of  local (and well-known, I soon found out) blogger Katie Granju being in the hospital after an assault. The ups and downs were circulated, and the community was in support of this family. Even though I still wasn't familiar with the blogger or what happened, I was sad to read the son had died. The pain, as any parent can imagine, must have been unbearable.

But then I started reading her blog, and understanding what happened. The strength this mother has shown, and the battles she has had to fight - I have no words. You can read the story in great detail and research at Justice for Henry. Go back to the beginning of the blog and start there. Also read her other blog, Mamapundit. For now, though, a summary.

Henry was a teenage boy who struggled with drug addiction. He was not happy as a drug addict,and was trying to get clean. He fell victim to a pair of older adults who preyed on vulnerable teenagers, who gave him a fatal dose of methadone. Sometime soon after, Henry was badly beaten, then picked up by the couple and taken to their home, where he suffered an overdose on top of his other injuries. The couple refused to call 911 for hours, and only finally did so under the threat of police involvement toward themselves by a friend of Henry's. There is piles of evidence, text messages, and witness statements describing exactly what happened to Henry, what kind of people these two are, their actions, and their responsibility for Henry's death. But Knox County is refusing to pursue the case. The whole lack of concern by the sheriff's department and the local DA's office is infuriating, while staff members publish memos saying Katie should leave them alone and worry about her surviving children

Katie has had to investigate her own son's death on her own, and be treated like someone only wanting to stir up trouble, by the very agencies who are supposed to be investigating and prosecuting crime. I'm not sure I could even get out of bed in her shoes, much less conduct the interviews she has, and have the fights she has fought with everyone from the sheriff's office, the DA's office, medical examiner's office, and the 911 center. And  the lack of interest  by the local media is disheartening. Are all the stations and the newspaper really so afraid of small-town politics that they ignore what is being laid out in front of them? The national media is seeing the injustice - there is a list on the Justice for Henry site of media coverage.

This is not just one family's fight, though. This could happen to ANY parent. Knox County is showing a clear disinterest in pursuing legal action against crime victims if they happen to be addicts. The attitude is "he/she deserved it." And sadly, drug use in teenagers is not uncommon. Every parent thinks "It won't happen to my child" but not every parent is correct. And combine drug use with a teenager's developing brain and developing judgment and dangerous things happen in an instant. One small argument can turn deadly, kids can too-quickly find themselves in a situation they can't get out of. Like Henry, they may be preyed upon by an older couple running a sex-for-drugs trafficking ring. In truth, we never know.

It is my hope and prayer that Henry's family will see justice for his death. I truly hope his mother will see a reward for all her difficult, painful research into the circumstances surrounding her son's death. It is also my prayer no other mothers, fathers, grandparents, siblings have to suffer like Henry's family has for the past year. Knox County Sheriff's Office and the DA's office need to step up and do their jobs.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Another blow to equal rights in Tennessee

Bill Haslam, Governor of Tennessee

On Monday, Governor Haslam signed HB 600, the Equal Access to Intrastate Commerce Act, into law. At first glance, it seems rather benign. 
This bill prohibits any local government from imposing on any person an anti-discrimination practice, standard, definition or provision that varies in any manner from the definition of "discriminatory practices" under present law or other types of discrimination recognized by state law but only to the extent recognized by the state. Under present law, "discriminatory practices" means any direct or indirect act or practice of exclusion, distinction, restriction, segregation, limitation, refusal, denial, or any other act or practice of differentiation or preference in the treatment of a person or persons because of race, creed, color, religion, sex, age or national origin.

It sounds like it protects  against discrimination, right? But look closer.
Under this bill, any such anti-discrimination practice, standard, definition, or provision imposed on any such person by a local government prior to the effective date of this bill would be null and void.

And take a good look at the first paragraph again.
This bill prohibits any local government from imposing on any person an anti-discrimination practice, standard, definition or provision that varies in any manner from the definition of "discriminatory practices" under present law or other types of discrimination recognized by state law but only to the extent recognized by the state. Under present law, "discriminatory practices" means any direct or indirect act or practice of exclusion, distinction, restriction, segregation, limitation, refusal, denial, or any other act or practice of differentiation or preference in the treatment of a person or persons because of race, creed, color, religion, sex, age or national origin.

The city of Nashville had already passed an ordinance prohibiting businesses from discriminating against sexual orientation or gender identity. In the language of the new bill, cities cannot have anti-discrimination laws stricter than the state law. Any current laws exceeding the state law are now "null and void."


Instead of protecting all our state's citizens, Governor Haslam has now made discrimination against the LGBT community legal.  Between this bill and the "Don't say gay" bill, I am disappointed in our state.

#IamTennessee

If you are on Twitter, use the hashtag #IamTennessee to express your lack of support for current discriminatory legislation. Governor, Senators, Representatives, listen up - we ARE Tennessee. #IamTennessee

More about this new law: Knoxville News Sentinel, The Tennessean (Nashville)

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Songs that always make me happy

Don't worry, a "real" post is coming soon - I just need to do some more research. In the meantime, enjoy some great music!

1. Born this Way by Lady Gaga
Everyone is divided on Lady Gaga - either love her or hate her, it seems no one is lukewarm towards her. Personally, I love her. I realize many can't get past the costumes or performance to really hear the music, but I think they add to the whole overall experience. I haven't yet heard a Gaga song I didn't love.
This one, though, is at the top of my playlist right now. Never before has a song so succinctly summed up my outlook on life: God made each of us and loves us all, no matter our gender, race, financial status, or orientation. "I'm beautiful in my way/cause God makes no mistakes/I'm on the right track baby/I was born this way"

2. La Vie Boheme from Rent
This is one of my very favorite movies. I can watch it over and over and over again. I love so many of the songs, but this one is my absolute favorite from the movie. I often rewind this scene and watch it again, and it makes me want to get up and dance on a table every time I hear it.

3. Grace Kelly by Mika
Nothing deep here, no message - the song just makes me happy. I love it!

4. Melody by Kate Earl
A nice little glimpse inside my head... I think there is always some song in my head, even when I'm asleep.

5. They All Laughed from The Whole Nine Yards soundtrack
If you've seen the movie (my other very favorite movie), it's the song performed during the end credits. I just love this song. And when Sophie was a colicky newborn, before we found the dietary problem causing it, this song was one of the few that would calm her down at night.

6. Baby Got Back by Sir Mixalot
"Oh. My. God Becky look at her butt" Admit it. You know EXACTLY what I'm talking about. Who can listen to this song and not laugh and instantly be in a good mood? It is so un-PC, and so shallow, but unabashedly so. And if you grew up in the 90s, don't even pretend you don't know all the words.

Monday, May 23, 2011

It's Monday.

I'd really love to have some meaningful, insightful blog today. I really would.

Instead, we woke up with a baby who could keep  nothing down. Even sips of water made her vomit all over. A couple naps, a visit to the pediatrician, and an afternoon of snuggling, and she seems to be better now. She finally just ate a little (pumpkin and cottage cheese) and is again running around the house.

So tomorrow, I will be back to work and back to blogging. Today, though, is a day for taking care of my little one.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Some of my favorites

Back in January, I realized how much I was spending on hair clips for Sophie, and how easily I could make them. After a couple fun afternoons of clip-making, I was organizing her clips and noticed she had nearly 70.

Oops.

I was having too much fun (and had plenty more supplies) to stop so after some suggesting from friends I decided to sell them on Etsy. I've made a few sales, mostly local, but I still am enjoying making new pieces.

Here are some of my favorites:
Such a pretty color combination!  It makes me smile :)

The center bead doesn't photograph well. It's a pink glass bead from a vintage necklace.



I love the vintage look of this one. The fabric is almost sheer white with white dots.

My very favorite. Another pink glass bead from the vintage necklace, and silver seed beads.

I am NOT a seamstress, but I hand-sew all the yoyos. I did buy one package of premade ones early on, but then I found a handy little gadget that makes it very easy to make them on my own. A family friend gave me a bunch of fabric she had, and I've bought some also. Like my writing, I don't have a set plan of what I'm going to make, but follow my inspiration. I do make sure that I love everything I make, though. And I really enjoy the process.

Now that Sophie is a toddler and into EVERYTHING she can possibly find, I don't have as much clip-making time as I used to. I don't like having needles or my hot glue gun out around her, because she is just too darn quick! I'm still going, though. As long as it is more enjoyable than stressful, I will continue.

Friday, May 20, 2011

Atlanta creates a law against breastfeeding in public!

This angers me.

A new law in metro Atlanta will limit breast feeding in public.
On Monday night, Forest Park passed a public indecency ordinance to prevent public nudity. Previously, the city only had a public indecency ordinance that covered adult entertainment businesses.According to the law, no woman can breast feed anyone older than 2 years old in public. City manager John Parker called the law a proactive step.“It sets up a process whereby we can try to control nudity throughout the entire city," Parker said.
From WSBTV.com
Public indecency?  Control nudity? REALLY??



To keep from beginning to sound redundant, see the AAP/WHO breastfeeding information in this blog post.

I am glad that they have the upper age limit as 2 instead of 1, but seriously - why limit it at all? And why on earth use DECENCY as a reason? Breastfeeding is not even close to indecent!

Yes, these women are SO indecent, aren't they? So much nudity! Heaven forbid someone might see this!

I just don't understand why lawmakers keep trying to legislate breastfeeding. The laws are so backwards and unnecessary, too. Seriously, how often do you see a school-aged child nursing? I mean actually see it, not just a "someone told my friend who told me" story.  It's rare. And even if it was common, what business is it of yours? How do you know it's not a child with special nutritional needs? Sure, the mom can pump milk, but what if they were out somewhere in this hypothetical situation and her pump was broken? Or they were only going on a 10 minute errand but had car troubles and couldn't get back home? (It happens.  Trust me.)  It is becoming more and more common for American mothers to join the rest of the world and nurse up to age 3 or 4. And most children that age only do it at certain times - it is not their main source of nourishment so you're NOT going to see it often in public. But if the need arises, a mother should NEVER be punished for taking care of her child.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Teaching for TCAP, part 2

On Tuesday I posted about the school seemingly teaching for testing, and then nothing the remaining two weeks of school. Bored children is a minor concern, though. There is one result of this that disturbs me more.

At the end of her sixth grade year, we found out that Emma would be in honors math in seventh grade (this year). She was very excited and proud of herself, and we were proud of her. I was elated, because even though I always did very well in school (I graduated 5th in my class with a 4.0), I just didn't get math. I can do basic things easily, like adding, subtracting, multiplying, and dividing, but get beyond that and I get a bit lost. And forget word problems! While I always excelled at reading, spelling, and languages, I can't mix words and numbers. They just don't mesh together in my brain. The more complicated things? Forget it! If I don't understand it, I can't learn it. And no teacher could make me understand anything beyond Algebra 1. "It just is" doesn't cut it for me. (On a side note, I did great at geometry. Seeing the pictures really made it click for me.)

Math has always been easy for Emma, though. She just gets it. And I still remember getting the call from her while I was at work telling me about being chosen for the honors class. She was thrilled! When we got the school supply lists over the summer, we went to Target and picked out the binders and folders and notebooks and loose paper, all the standard stuff. For the honors math class, though, she also had to have a graphing calculator. The kind I didn't need until college! The expensive one. Ouch. But still, we made it work. Her education is very important to us.

Then, school started. We had the standard assembly-type meeting with the principal. He does one grade at a time, in the gym. Basics are covered for new-to-the-school families, introduces the teachers to us, and then discusses any changes. Before school started this year, they were given the results of last year's TCAPs. It seems that while the school overall excelled in almost every subject, as a whole they did poorly in math. As a result, they decided to cancel honors math. Reason? to spend more time teaching what was specifically on the test, to increase the performance this year.

Now, I can understand this to a point. These tests are supposed to (in theory) measure how well students are learning in school, to evaluate how well the school is doing its job of teaching them. But instead of incorporating the areas the students struggled into the curriculum, or spending more time on those areas, they are punishing the students who don't need extra help. Instead of celebrating and challenging the students who already tested far above average, the entire student body is grouped into remedial-type learning. THIS I have a huge problem with.

Instead of using these tests as a measuring device, schools are almost afraid of them any more. Legislation has put so much weight on 3 or 4 days out of an entire school year that the pressure on teachers and students is unbearable. For the first time ever, Emma was so stressed about a test that her health was affected. As soon as the last test was over, she was back to normal. She said the teachers put so much emphasis on the test days, wanting the children to do so well, that it's all they talk about in the weeks leading up to it. Automated calls from the principal go out frequently  reminding parents to make sure the kids are in bed early, get plenty of sleep and are rested, eat a good breakfast, are at school early, have their sharpened pencils. When truthfully, that should be the routine throughout the year. (Not the pressure part, but the preparedness.)

I just hope that when the test results are in for this year, the school sees fit to bring back the honors class that never was.

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

My daughter the journalist?

Emma has changed her mind (as I expected).

Since she was eight years old, all she wanted to do was be a veterinarian. She has always loved animals, and when our cat (who she adored) developed diabetes and we spent time with the vet learning how to care for her, she made up her mind. She volunteered a few times in their office, she gives the cat her insulin shots (yes, she's still doing fine five years later), and has read many books on the subject.

Then some harder pet times happened. Our other beloved cat died last year (they were sisters). She had a fatal illness that couldn't be cured, and she was dying before our eyes so we had to have her euthanized. It was so hard to hold her as she went, but what else could I do? Emma and the baby were with me and she and I cried all the way home. The cats were older than she was! Then last month her gerbil - her pet of her very own, that seemed to choose her in the pet store four years ago - was bleeding from his belly. We thought he had scratched himself on a sharp piece of chewed plastic, but when I cleaned him we discovered a large scent gland tumor. It was about the size of a dime, which is huge on a little rodent. She could not bring herself to put ointment on it when I held him, but she did take good care of him like always and worried so much about him. She was heartbroken when he passed away.

She decided that she couldn't deal with the death aspect of being a veterinarian - a very valid concern. That is why I ruled it out instantly in my career musings as a teenager. Instead, she informed my husband that she wanted to be a journalist.

I can totally see her doing that. It's a career I seriously considered for myself, too. I was on our newspaper staff my last two years of high school, and even won awards for my articles. One day, though, a local journalist visited our class and gave us one piece of advice that changed my mind for me - Don't be a journalist if you want people to like you. At the time, I was very concerned about being liked. Now I think it's great but not the only thing to consider, but who has that mindset at 16? I think she would be okay with that, though. She's a very different girl than I was. She is confident, secure, and sure of herself. She doesn't just go along with what's popular. She stands up for others against the "mean girls" even though one of them was her very best friend since kindergarten.

She will probably change her mind again, and more than once. But whatever she chooses, I support her. And with that -

What advice from other women in journalism can I pass along to her?

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Teaching for TCAP

I've heard parents complain for a few years now about how schools seem to be teaching for TCAPs (Tennessee's standardized testing) but I never really understood the problem. Now that my daughter is at the end of her 7th grade year, I get it.

These tests are nothing new. I took them in school, as I'm sure everyone else did. They were held in the spring, and lasted almost a week. Bubble forms, freshly sharpened #2 pencils (and teachers checked every student's pencils to make sure) and endlessly boring days with timed tests and no freedom to do anything else. But once it was over, back to business as usual. The last week of school our textbooks were taken up by the teachers, a field trip and a class party, and we were out for the summer.

Now it's a different story. Our daughter's school had TCAP testing in April. Last week were their final 9-week tests (they are on a 9 week instead of 6 week grading period). Since the middle of last week they have not had any textbooks, or homework. No class work either, apparently. They have a full week of school this week, and Monday is their last day.

So what are they doing? My daughter is texting me how bored she is. They do have a field trip this week, but that's just one day. They are playing games and chatting with each other.

I understand that teachers and students alike are ready for summer. The kids are a bit more unruly, teachers are tired, but please don't make their educations suffer! Am I unrealistic to expect SOME sort of learning should still be going on at the end of the year? Review worksheets if nothing else! Yes, I know you have already collected all their books. All you need is one workbook and a photocopier.

There are many, many other issues with teaching for testing - much bigger issues with bigger consequences. This is a relatively minor one, but still an issue for me, anyway.

Am I being unrealistic, though? I'd love to hear other parents' (and teachers') thoughts on this!